Bonding with Family

Had not been working for the past months since I left my last job in July. Spending more time with my 2 princes as well as my hubby. These period of time builds our relationship stronger and closer.

Though working does gives me the money and freedom to buy and spend on my 2 princes, but that does not brings our relationship as close as now. I used to spend my time after work with friends to chill and drink, almost a everyday event (except on weekends). Reason I gave was too stress with work, and thus does not want to go back after work to face the room alone. Others would say I could go back to accompany my 2 princes, but reason I gave was I do not want to spend my time getting frustrated with them after a long day of work. I do not want my princes to only remember I only go over to scold them thats all. Thus, I avoided them on weekdays. Bad mom I was.

Hubby had always work late and never home until 12mn at times, therefore I am always out chilling and drinking with friends. Chilling is fine but it would be ridiculous that I did it everyday without fail. Now most of my chilling time would be with hubby's friends instead, short chilling at the regular coffeeshop hangout (my late FIL's friends). Though "auntie" but I am spending my time with my hubby as well as enjoying drinks. Chatting with those friends kills my boredom too, fun and nice people.

Loves grows stronger with hubby too. Now that he is expanding his business, he had requested me to help him in his business. We used to be argue and quarrel a lot while working together last time. Thus, it seems alot different now. We learn to give in and to accomodate with each other. We start a new company besides his current and hoping to work together for many years to come. I had even commit myself to getting another Diploma in Interior Design, for the future of our business.

Yes, I do miss those days at work with loads of money in my bank at the end of the month, but working with hubby reminds me of the day I took my vows to love him forever. During my working days, our love was not as strong, going home early to face the room alone frustrate me, and when he is back at wee hours, I tends to get even more crossed and avoid talking to him. In the end, the solution I did was to avoid him totally, and that is to chill and drink till late daily.

In the past, dating him for a dinner was such a disappointment, probably only 1 successful date after 15 requests, and that 1 successful date would be dinner at the hangout coffeeshop. Now we would have dinner daily together. I had always cooked lunch for hubby to work, now I could even enjoy our bento lunch with him together.

His friends even joke that all my expenses are under my hubby, 吃喝嫖賭 all under him. I had my freedom to work at flexible timing too, at times to play a little mahjong too.

Some would say all these happened because I am not a good planner with my time and not able to handle stress levels. To some may comment I am just finding excuses to laze around not to work, but it does not matter what others says about me. I had worked and had been there where I never thought I would. I had failed before few years back doing business, and learnt from lessons. For now, its to build our businesses together with hubby and to spend more time with my family.